Many people struggled with suicidal ideation and they are often fearful to share that they are having these thoughts with others due to shame, fear of abandonment, burdening others, having others worry about them, or feel that no one will understand or be able to help. Sometimes suicidal thoughts come as a way to escape unexplainable pain or to express to others that something is wrong. Let’s talk about it, let’s create a plan to keep you safe. You can get through this!
Self-harm is often thought of as behaviors to “get attention” or something that “teens” do. Self-harm is often used as a short-term solution to manage difficult emotions and experiences. I understand that it worked, however, you do not deserve to be hurt by others and you do not have to hurt yourself to feel better. I often find that with self-harm comes shame and hiding, which sometimes increases feelings of not being seen or feeling insignificant. In therapy, you have the opportunity to learn skills that are effective to manage the distress you experience, and ones that do not result in you harming yourself to feel better are possible. You do not have to hurt yourself to be okay.